Yesterday we found out that one of my good friends' (here in Georgia, and on staff with us) brother died. It was such a shock. She thought at first that her mom was sick, so she went very quickly and then found out that it was her brother who had died, he was in Moscow.
It's so hard to understand. It's so hard to know how to be the comfort that she needs.
And the mourning process here in Georgia seems so different. We went and visited her, and her mom was sitting in the living room, her friends were sitting around her, and she was really like "wailing". It was hard to hear. And I guess that it will be like that for 3 days. When the person dies and is actually in the country, they leave the body in the house for 3 days or something (first they do an operation and put some preserving stuff inside). But yeah. It seems really different than what I've experienced.
So it's partly hard to know how to act, because culturally I'm not sure what is acceptable and what is not. For example, when we were going to visit her I wanted to take a CD player and some CDs for her, because she really likes to listen to music and it helps her. But then I found out that it's not "acceptable". No TV, no music, no computer, not supposed to be any laughing or something like that. Just lights, people, food if you can make them eat (the people who are mourning) and like that's it. Of course I'm still learning about the culture of this all, so maybe I don't have it all correct. But nonetheless, it's very different.
So, anyways. Please be praying for her and for her mom.
It's so hard to understand. It's so hard to know how to be the comfort that she needs.
And the mourning process here in Georgia seems so different. We went and visited her, and her mom was sitting in the living room, her friends were sitting around her, and she was really like "wailing". It was hard to hear. And I guess that it will be like that for 3 days. When the person dies and is actually in the country, they leave the body in the house for 3 days or something (first they do an operation and put some preserving stuff inside). But yeah. It seems really different than what I've experienced.
So it's partly hard to know how to act, because culturally I'm not sure what is acceptable and what is not. For example, when we were going to visit her I wanted to take a CD player and some CDs for her, because she really likes to listen to music and it helps her. But then I found out that it's not "acceptable". No TV, no music, no computer, not supposed to be any laughing or something like that. Just lights, people, food if you can make them eat (the people who are mourning) and like that's it. Of course I'm still learning about the culture of this all, so maybe I don't have it all correct. But nonetheless, it's very different.
So, anyways. Please be praying for her and for her mom.
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